Of all the different things that cause writer’s block, fear can be the most difficult one to hurdle. It’s not something you can get over in an afternoon. It’s not something that passes with a mood. It can be very real and paralyzing, and it can prevent you from ever starting your book, let alone finishing it.
Sometimes we freeze when we start thinking about what happens next. What will people think of me? Will anyone read this? How can I let myself be judged?
Being authentic is scary, and opening your soul to the world—whether you write fiction or non—requires some degree of bravery. Unless you are a narcissist, you likely care about what people think of you and your writing.
So how do you get over this seemingly insurmountable hurdle? Continue reading
I’ve been thinking a lot about nurturing lately, especially dealing with the kiddos. How do I direct them to discover their talents and follow their dreams? It’s easy to just say, “Hey, kid, follow your dreams,” but that really isn’t enough. You have to provide guidance and an environment that allows for exploration.
So how does this translate to writing? I went back to the first big writing project I did: a series of 14-15 page stories (hand-written on 8.5 x 11 notebook paper) back in middle school. I was a big mystery reader, and of course, I thought I had read so many books that I could easily write one myself. Continue reading
One of the biggest questions on everyone’s mind when they think about writing a book is the cost of self-publishing. Can I afford it? Will I need a loan? How easy is it to sell a kidney?
I can assure you that I self-published all 6 of my books while working a regular job and that both my kidneys are happily scrubbing away in my own body. Really. It’s doable!
Because you’re a smart, savvy kind of writer, though, let’s take a look at the potential costs of writing through publishing. Planning is, after all, a huge step in making your dream a reality. Continue reading
Have you ever noticed that when you have a rough day, you just don’t feel like writing? Maybe you sit down at your desk and push yourself anyway. If you actually type anything though and don’t end up tossing your laptop against the wall, when you go back later and read it, is it any good?
There is a good reason for this. You are in the wrong energy for writing.
When you aren’t in the flow of your best energy, then you aren’t going to write like you. It can feel forced, frustrated, angry. And worst of all, when you read it later, that energy shines through. You don’t want to read it, and no one else will either.
The best thing you can do is to actually put yourself in the mood for writing. Continue reading
I was talking about the publishing process with a client recently, and we were pinpointing his goals. When I started out talking, I went straight to that “the-sky’s-the-limit” mentality and mentioned some different ways that he can use his book to reach the audience he wants to reach.
I stopped myself partway through this conversation, apologized, and asked him what he really wants to do with his book. Maybe he didn’t want to do speaking gigs and meet with groups of people to help them out.
He took a deep breath. (I think I had overwhelmed him a bit.) He wants to help people who have been through the same difficult situation he’s been through because he didn’t find many books to help him out at the time. Then he said, “Honestly, I’m not looking to write the next great American novel. I just want to get my story out there to help people. After that, I’m not sure. I just want others in this situation to feel like they aren’t alone. Other people have been through it, too.”
I’m sure that plenty of people want to do the same thing. You just want to help others because you felt alone, scared, or like you were the only person going through what you did.
And that’s beautiful. Continue reading
It’s a short one this week! I’ve been super busy with magazine articles. Not a bad thing!
Have you ever watched a TV show where the characters are involved in something serious, and they suddenly start talking about relationship problems? For example, maybe they are investigating a crime, trying to figure out who killed the millionaire business man, and one suddenly says, “So how are things working out with Tom?”
The other character then responds. They carry on a conversation about it. Then they find a crushed cigarette butt—the business man doesn’t smoke—and turn their thoughts back to the scene of the crime.
As a writer, this drives me nuts! It’s completely unbelievable! It would never happen in real life. No one takes care of serious business and discusses relationships in the middle of it. No one stops in the middle of running from the bad guys to express their romantic feelings and kiss the other person passionately. No one . . . you get my point. Continue reading
You know what’s fun? Once you have a beautiful polished manuscript, you get to write an enticing 2–3 paragraph synopsis of the book that doesn’t give away too much plot but makes people want to buy your book. (This is for the back cover.)
And suddenly, reorganizing your pantry is really exciting and important right now . . .
Basically, you have three options once you put down the can of green beans: you can pay someone to write it for you, you can cry in a corner, or you can tie yourself to your desk chair and write it yourself.
Option three tends to be the least painful physically, emotionally, and economically, so let’s look at my favorite trick for writing a great back cover blurb. Continue reading
Many of us fall in love with a name and present it to a main character. We get to write it thousands of times. We get to develop a character that fills the name and gives it the depth we want.
If you’re like me, you love naming, and finding the perfect name can really make your day, if not your week. This is why I always devote a chunk of time in my writing session to naming characters, cities, and other things that need names.
Note: don’t do it in the middle of writing! Don’t stop yourself when you suddenly have something or someone without a name and go research for three hours to find the perfect one. Just write “name” or something that will help you know what goes there, and then highlight it so you can return and research later. Don’t interrupt your writing session if you’re in the middle of writing a scene. The perfect name will wait.
So how do I discover the perfect name for a character if I don’t have one planned already? I look at several things first. Continue reading
Many people focus on core values or key words when they are developing their brands, and the same can inspire you as a writer. Because we are developing a brand for our books, these words can help guide and anchor us, providing focus.
So how do we find a select set of words that resonates with us? Writers know an awful lot of words, right?
Start by thinking about what you value in your life, what things bring you joy, what you can’t live without.
I don’t mean your lipstick, your cell phone, and a giant stack of your favorite books.
We are talking about concepts, ideas, and general things that make you happy. Continue reading
I met Joanne Jamis Cain through the Pittsburgh Women’s Mastermind, of which we are both members. She’s a wedding planner who specializes in handling the coordination of weddings exactly as the bride envisions her day. I’ve never been to a wedding handled by Joanne, but I’ve seen images, especially of the lovely barns that she transforms into magical venues for the happy couple, and they are certainly gorgeous.
Joanne is also the author of Ordinary is Extraordinary: Reframing my Life in Purpose and Gratitude, a book for those seeking peace and serenity in their lives. The book description says that “Through her stories of grace, love, and parking spaces, she tells us how reframing our experiences helps us recognize the blessings in our lives. Embracing a life of purpose and gratitude is a game changer.” Continue reading